Stressors basically fall into two categories: (1) things happening
to you that give you what you don't want, and (2) things happening that
stop you from getting what you want.
However, the famous, stoic Greek philosopher, Epictetus, said: "It's
not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters." and
"People are not disturbed by things, but by the view they take of them."
This philosophy forms the cornerstone of my approach to helping people
better manage stress - that is teaching people ways to stress less and
react to stressful events with less disturbance.
My Hypnosis treatment approach to stress management teaches you
cognitive, behavioral and emotive coping skills that will enable you to
stay calm, keep a cool head, and apply logical, rational, and effective
ways to mastering the demands, uncertainties, disappointments,
frustrations, and hassles of life.
So, what's so good about Hypnosis? The answer is that it makes the
learning and mastery of these effective coping skills easier and quicker.
Staying calm means controlling the intensity of your negative emotions,
such as anxiety, fear, anger, grief, sadness, rage, helplessness,
alienation, cynicism, and so forth. When these emotions are not
controlled, they impede your ability to think clearly and to process the
information and facts around you in an effective and organized fashion.
Staying calm is a way of taming your emotional brain so that your
executive, logical brain can rationally assess the facts in the present
and plan your actions to be the most effective for your day-to-day living.
Hypnosis can be used with your permission to re-program your emotional and
logical brains so that you can learn to control your emotional reactivity.
The payoff for staying calm in the face of stressors and hassles is that
you are able to see your options and choices more clearly and thus make
the right choices. Staying calm enables you to ignore matters that could
intrude and hinder you from achieving your goals. Here, we are referring
to distractions that create noise and more anxiety.
The costs of not staying calm in the face of the demands and challenges of
life involve damaging your health, family life, effectiveness on the job,
and the possibility of ending up feeling miserable and hopeless.
When stress, disappointments and uncertainty are not effectively managed,
your body may become a dumping ground, and you may experience a variety of
bothersome physical symptoms. Ineffective management of chronic stress and
uncertainty can lead to a chronic sense of feeling alienated from your
social world. This can manifest in the form of cynicism, rejection of
moral and religious principles, and the feeling that life has no meaning,
causing you to feel lost, dejected, and adrift, without purpose or
direction.
Vulnerability stems from the feeling that you have no control over the
outcomes of what happens in the world. Feeling vulnerable can lead you to
feel more endangered and threatened. It can shatter your basic sense of
trust and security in the world, your belief that the world is a
relatively safe place to live in, and your expectations that you will be
here tomorrow.
Your vulnerability can become a breeding ground for fears of all types,
and erode your feelings of comfort and security in carrying on your
day-to-day activities. The lack of adequate support and connectedness to
other people can also become a breeding ground for alienation and
depression.
My Hypnosis approach to Stress Management will help you to identify, build
on, and increase your Inner Strength. You will learn to:
Replace dysfunctional and
self-defeating behaviors with adaptive behaviors.
Develop greater awareness
of and control over your emotions.
Learn to use your
imagination to create and rehearse positive daydreams.
Identify and replace
negative thinking patterns with adaptive, positive thinking.
Resolve internal conflicts
that cause stress.
Remove negative
subconscious suggestions and replace them with positive ones.
Improve your interpersonal
problem solving skills.
